我们这一生。
关于“爱”的诸般苦楚。
大抵都源于一种极其隐秘的、
想要“占领”对方的贪婪。
All our lives,the many sorrows of “love”come mostly from a very secretgreed — the wish to “occupy” the other.
你总以为自己。
是一块等待被拼凑的拼图。
却不知。
你本身，就是一个极其奇妙且圆满的循环。
不需要任何外力的嵌入。
也能极其完美地，自转。
You always thought you werea puzzle piece waiting to be fitted in,not knowingyou yourself are a wondrous, complete circle,needing nothing pressed into you from outsideto turn, perfectly, on your own.
在领悟这一点之前。
人往往是极其用力的。
Before you realize this,a person tends to try far too hard.
你会不由自主地。
想将那个闯入生命的人。
修剪成，符合自己期待的模样。
要拥有，要回应。
要那个名为“永远”的、其实并不存在的支点。
You can’t helpwanting to trim the one who has burst into your lifeinto the shape you expect.To have, to be answered,to lean on that fulcrum called “forever,” which never really existed.
我们把这种粘稠的、近乎窒息的抓取感。
自我感动地称之为深情。
直到爱。
被这种“占领”，活活杀死。
We take this sticky, almost suffocating graspingand, moved by ourselves, call it devotion,until loveis smothered to death by this “occupation.”
在爱的修行里。
所谓离苦。
是你要生出一种极其客观、又极其慈悲的定力。
In the practice of love,leaving sufferingmeans growing a steadiness that is utterly clear-eyed and utterly compassionate.
“去承认。
对方首先是他自己。
然后，才是你的爱人。”
“To admitthat the other is first of all themself,and only then your beloved.”
他首先是宇宙的一粒星辰。
是山间的一丛野火。
是一阵风，一棵树。
是一个独立在人世间、有着自己起伏与明暗的生灵。
He is first a star in the universe,a wildfire in the mountains,a gust of wind, a tree,a living being standing alone in this world, with his own rise and fall, his own light and shade.
这人世间的红尘爱恨。
终究不过是我们借假修真的一环。
All the love and hate of this dusty worldare, in the end, only one ring in how we use what is passing to cultivate what is real.
那个偶然涉水而来的人，其实并不是来圆满你的。
他是一面镜子。
是在这无常荒原里，为了与你合演一场关于“执着与破执”的道场。
The one who happened to wade across to you did not come to complete you.He is a mirror,a practice hall in this wilderness of impermanence,where the two of you stage a play about clinging and letting go.
“当你不再抓取。
你便从这相思的假象里，修出了那个本自圆满的真身。
你终于看清。
自己从来不需要被治愈。
也从未真正破碎过。”
“When you stop grasping,out of the illusion of longing you cultivate the true self that was always whole.At last you see clearly:you never needed to be healed,and were never truly broken.”
得乐。
便是在这一刻，如期而至。
Finding joyarrives, right on time, in this very moment.
这种快乐，其实是极其轻盈的。
它不再依赖于对方的归期。
也不再取决于那句迟迟未发的讯息。
它甚至与“占有”这两个字，完成了彻底的脱钩。
This joy is very light.It no longer depends on when the other will return,or on a message that hasn’t come.It has even come completely unhookedfrom the word “possess.”
它变成了。
无论身处何地，无论结局如何。
都能由衷发出的赞叹：
“这人间何其平庸，但我却能因你的存在，而感到万物生色。”
It becomesa wonder you can say from the heart,wherever you are, however it ends:“This world is so ordinary, yet because you exist, all things come alive with color.”
仅仅是因为“你在这儿”。
仅仅是因为这个有些荒凉的世界里，还有如此明亮、如此生动的一个存在。
Simply because “you are here.”Simply because in this somewhat barren world there is still a being so bright, so alive.
那颗原本干枯、紧绷的心。
就能感受到某种极其温柔的抚摸。
从而生出莫大的欢喜。
And that heart, once dry and clenched,can feel a very gentle touch,and from it, great gladness grows.
可这欢喜。
最终也不再归属于对方。
而是悉数回流到了你自己的生命汪洋里。
Yet this gladnessin the end no longer belongs to the other.It all flows back into the ocean of your own life.
于是在这场关于爱的漫长渡劫里。
你得到的。
是即便从此一个人赶路。
抬起头。
依然觉得天清月朗，自然安宁。
And so, through this long trial of love,what you gainis this: even if from now on you travel alone,when you look up,the sky is still clear, the moon still bright, and all is naturally at peace.
“这就是你的离苦。
这就是你的得乐。”
“This is your leaving of suffering.This is your finding of joy.”